I never realized that listening to others without listening to yourself could be so dangerous.  

In fact, my thyroid specialist told me that female therapists who spend all day listening to others make up the largest portion of her client base.

She said “It feels like there’s a river between me and my body.  What I need is…a bridge.” 

We are trying to keep our baby alive and he is trying to survive what life has dealt him. We are on the road seeking out treatments, both medical and therapeutic for his complexity of challenges.

When you have a big event happen in your life that rocks you to your toes, you often end up feeling very out of control.

When our human rights as women are being torn to shreds, when it is outrageously deadly dangerous to get pregnant and health care and social security are not a promise anymore—I think we need to ACTIVELY RECLAIM OUR BODIES.

Maybe, you feel stuck in grief because something has happened to your body’s ability: birthing, aging, injury, menopause or illness, and you had to sacrifice the parts of your identity built around your physical prowess.

Now you silently blame your body for betraying you.

Caretaking is an ethical principled approach to the reality that some people 

have more capacity than others. 

This is the core of human evolution-why we have continued as a human race. 

Don't let anyone tell you it's survival of the fittest--that's a five minute event. 

Even if you once enjoyed a very strong sense of self, 

it’s not uncommon to emerge (or peak out) 

from a caretaking ordeal with no idea whatsoever 

how to get back to your self–as though we dropped it 

somewhere along the way while wandering through a dark forest. 

If shame was functioning properly in a healthy society, we wouldn't have to defeat it. 

We could simply listen to its signals, observing and addressing conflicts between our individual desires and the group’s well-being and expectations.

Children will feel ashamed they still actively want their parents' love even if there is no hope of them getting it.  

—Many of the people I work with who experience challenges in their bodies as they age had their early movement and bonding time interrupted.

Caretaking is a different kind of recovery because you are recovering from something that is precious, sacred, and positive. Caretaking is necessary, even as it becomes all encompassing in a way that can be destructive to the individual caretaker. 

Few things are as confusing as finding yourself in a situation where there’s a huge conflict between your inner and outer realities——and you can’t figure out how to make the best decisions for yourself.